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Hey people! What’s up? It’s been a week since i updated my blog. Good. It means i do my studies and other works 😀
I wanna share something that come between me and sweetheart during our chat last night but i think i wanna keep it on hold first. Still thinking of writing it later. Hehe. Till that post is up, i’ll leave u guys with something interesting that i took from one of the Curtinian friends, Nadea. It’s about guys’ whats and whys. Have fun reading it. Do leave your comment ya 😉
He chats up his female friends.
Who doesn’t? Guys can be platonic pals with girls; so don’t get all jumpy when he innocently checks in with them on how they are doing. Would you expect your guys pal to stop caring about you just because you’re someone else’s girl?
Haha. I had this problem once when Zarul used to be really close to Fairous. Of course at that time Fairous was with Qayum, Zarul’s best friend but most of the time when Zarul and me gets into a fight, Fairous is the one who he talks to. Sometimes i think they know each other more than i know Zarul. Haha. I really don’t like it at first but through out the relationship, i understand that sometimes a man needs other woman opinions. Haha. Now, i’m in Fairous shoe’s and it is good to know that when a guy really loves his girl, he will do anything to show and make the girl understand that she’s the one for him.
He shuts down during fights.
Some guys need to step away from a fight to cool off and think before they can address their feelings. This doesn’t mean that he’ll never talk to you, it just means that you need to give him some space. Could you think, if in a stressful situation, where you were being yelled at or forced to confront your issues before you were ready?
I never had this situation before. When both of us got into a fight, it’s nasty. Sometimes, i really don’t remember that i yelled at him and he screams back to me. We really fight. On the phone of course. There was a time when he really get pissed off with me, he just throw his handphone.
He keeps in touch with his ex.
Unless it was an ugly and disastrous break-up, there is nothing wrong with him and his ex staying friends. It’s only natural that he wonders about the welfare of a former flame. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him how you feel but trust him enough to NOT cross the line.
This was never an issue in my relationship since he had a really nasty breakup before he met me. He really hates her to the max which i totally like because i had nothing to worry about (at that time). Now, i’m in the position of being his ex and he still keep in touch with me BUT without the knowledge of current gf. I have to respect his desicion on that although i didn’t favour it. After all, it is just a simple call or msg.
He forgets the little things
…like your plans for Friday. It’s not that he thinks your plans are unimportant, but its difficult for him to hang on to ALL the information you give him. Guys make the effort to remember anniversary dates, your favourite ice cream and the way your hair smells. You could give his memory a break for Friday’s plans, right?
NOT ME! I am a person who likes details. There were times where i used to ask him randomly my favourite stuffs or my activities or even my timetable. Thank God Zarul really makes the effort to remember every details about me although there were times where i forgot everything about him. Hehe. I love him for that 🙂
He’s supposed to pick you up at nine, but only arrives an hour later.
What do you think he’s doing? Meeting up with another girl? Maybe he got some last minute chores to do. The important thing is to quit being suspicious and paranoid. Always allow him to explain why he’s late before you berate him for his tardiness. If it becomes routine though, do put a stop to it, chronic tardiness could mean he doesn’t respect your time.
He NEVER late in any of our date. Seriously. Can you imagine what time he woke up if he was at my house 8 am and he lives in Klang? I’m the one who abit late. Hehe.
He never gets you the right gift.
This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care. Buying the best gifts are traits your mum and BFF have dibs on. Men are terrible at buying gifts. You cant expect him to buy that perfect surprise gift. Cut him some slack. Maybe you should point him in the right direction next time!
I didn’t give him a chance to buy me anything except foods and cinema and sometimes topup. That’s it. There were 3 things that he gaves me; Eminem’s Curtain Fall cassette, Blue Adidas ID Band and a ring. I LOST the ring before we even break up. He is a person who has high taste in almost everything. I admit that. Most of my stuff was chosen by him when we were together. I have this mental block; if someone gives me a present, i need to get them one back. That’s why i’m not a fan of presents.
He puts his guy friends before you.
Should coupledom signify the end of his 10-year friendships? How is it wrong if he spent the entire the entire week with you and wants 90 minutes to watch football with his mates on the weekend? Don’t you think that it’s a fair trade? You could use the time apart to focus on you.
This is so Zarul. His friend is his number one priority. I learn that indirectly from his friends. I have nothing against it since i do appreciate my friends as much as i appreciate him in my life. Therefore, one of my ground rule when i was with him was i will not interfere him if he is hanging out with the clan. No msg and calls until he gets back home. I like that rule because 1, he does hangout with his friends alot at night. So, i had my alone time for myself or even for my friends. I just can’t see myself being with him 24 hours.